I did something terrible in 1991 that hurt many, many people and brought me to where I am today. Words cannot express the depths of regret and remorse I feel on a daily basis. What happened is my fault and I take full responsibility for my actions, and although I can never make up for what took place, I’ve tried to the best of my ability to turn my life around by being the best person I can be and make something of my life, even here.
After I was arrested, I said some very hurtful things, things I didn’t mean, and to this day, my words still hurt countless people; family, friends, strangers. The knowledge my actions and words hurt so many haunts me still and is a burden I’ll carry with me forever. No matter what I do, it can never make up for the damage done. I’m not the person I was in 1991, and I hope you hold the belief that people can change and are worthy of redemption.
I’ve been a dog trainer for the past 10 years and I’m a certified animal behaviorist as well as the senior trainer and team leader in our program. We take dogs that were strays, owner-surrenders, puppy-mill dogs and those rescued from hoarders and train them using a balanced training philosophy. They are trained to be family pets mostly, however, a select few that meet the proper requirements are trained to be emotional support, therapy and service dogs for veterans with PTSD or other physical and/or major emotional challenges in need of mitigation. Over the years I’ve trained countless dogs of every breed, size and temperament, from an aggressive 12 pound Chihuahua to a goofy 140 pound Great Dane. I take pride in the work I do and am honored to be able to give back to society.
In my free time, I read, write, play music, study and work out. I play guitar, bass and keyboard. I also draw, paint and do various arts and crafts projects like making jewelry boxes and coffee mugs. I love the art of Warhol, Haring, Kandinsky, Dali, Pollock, Rivera, Monet, Matisse and Van Gogh.
I love music, and some of my favorite bands are: Bon Jovi, Cranberries, Poison, Motley Crue, Metallica, Kittie, Skid Row, Belly, In This Moment, Lacuna Coil, Rancid, L7, Poe, Black Flag, Bob Marley, A7X, GNR, Cheap Trick, Eagles, Depeche Mode, Slipknot, FFDP, Nirvana, Jane’s Addiction, RHCP, Foo Fighters, Mazzy Star, Tori Amos, Liz Phair, Suzanne Vega, REM, James Taylor, Smiths, Sundays, Placebo, Psychedelic Furs, Hole, Violent Femmes, Warrant, Bouncing Souls, Luscious Jackson, Aerosmith, Joni Mitchell, Housemartins, Breeders, Rammstein, Juliana Hatfield, Dar Williams, Veruca Salt, New Order, Sarah McLachlan, and my all-time favorites Grateful Dead, Boston, and Bruce Springsteen, to name a few. ☺
Favorite sports are soccer, baseball, skiing, hockey, winter and summer X-Games and Winter Olympics. Favorite teams are the Yankees, NJ Devils, UConn Huskies, and Kentucky Wildcats.
Over the years, I’ve earned a few college degrees, including a Master’s. I also became a paralegal in 2004. I firmly believe a wasted day is one where nothing new is learned and no forward progress is made.
I enjoy reading Jung, Kant, Nietzsche, Tolstoy, Marx, Engels, Dostoevsky, Mitch Albom, and Stephen King.
Other than the dogs and music, my greatest passion is foreign languages. I speak conversational Italian, French, Spanish and am now studying Arabic.
I’ve been a member of the Thespian Club with Sociology students from Bellarmine University, where we wrote, produced and directed plays for the prison population, staff, family and friends. I wrote the last play we did, a comedy in which an inept mob family attempts to take over Christmas by taxing Santa’s deliveries, forcibly unionizing elves, etc.
Additionally, I was a member of Books Behind Bars, also with Bellarmine University and the Outreach Program, similar to “Scared Straight” minus all of the yelling and screaming. All the programs were canceled by the then-warden, who felt they had no benefit for anybody.
In 2006, I legally changed my last name. I didn’t do it to run from my past or try to create a new life. Being adopted, all my life I had no idea who I was, where I came from, what my nationality was, etc. That all changed in 2006 when I discovered my heritage. I changed my last name only, to have that sense of identity.
I’m hoping to meet people who share similar interests and who can see beyond the actions that took place in a one-hour timeframe nearly 27 years ago. In NO WAY am I attempting to minimize what took place in 1991. I just hope that if you’re still reading this you’ll take a few minutes to write, and if you do judge me, you judge me for the person I’ve become, the man I am TODAY, not the child I was 27 years ago. I’d also love to hear from old friends.
My facility has JPay, so I can send and receive emails. You’ll have to go to JPay.com to register for me to be able to respond to your email. If you write directly, no colored envelopes, address labels, musical or handmade cards are allowed. Thank you for taking the time to read this and I hope to hear from you soon.